[Serious Chat 'Bout] Chiefs and their Grief

The reason I placed this article under my "Serious Chat 'Bout" section is, I have so many thoughts running rampant through my mind about it.  For those of you who have no idea what I'm talking about when I write "Chiefs and their Grief" it is this.

A few days ago, Kansas City Chiefs Linebacker Jovan Belcher (allegedly) shot his girlfriend (the mother of his child) numerous times before driving to the stadium and committed suicide in front of two of the Chiefs' staff members.  I was at work when I read the article and sat there staring at the computer screen with my jaw hitting the floor. I'm not sure if I was just shocked or disappointed or both.   Then I saw he was 25 years old. This man was only 25 years old and already he had enough angst to think life was over and not only that his life was over that the 22 year old woman who chose to have his child--that her life was over as well all because of a dumb argument.

An argument that could not have been that detimental or that important. A person's life is worth more than any disagreements you could have with anyone. I'm not sure how someone could wake up one day, one regular day, a day just like any other day and just because of one thing, snaps and commit two acts that are so unforgiveable.

What I wonder is this: did he think of his child before he did any of this?

If he did, he would know his child would now have to live with a basic stranger--sure it would be family but the child is not used to living with this person. Knowing smoeone and living with them are two different things. And how will (s)he be treated? How will she feel when (s)he grows up and have to deal with horrid students who makes fun of him/her because her father killed his/her mother then himself. How is child going to be mentally while growing up? This is a stresser even if the child didn't witness this or too young to remember this.

And what about the coaches who witness him shooting himself? They have to pick up and go, be strong for their players, what kind of mental issues is that going to cause?

How could he (allegedly) do all of this?

And his team--these men are going to act big and tough but what happens to them now? 

There are so many things that goes through one's mind when things like this happens. How does one move on after this? Everyone keep saying they deal and move on...but how?